Great post from HBR that calls out the danger of simplifying your dreams down to a narrow outcome that can setup a black and white success or failure scenario. One tool they describe to help avoid this is the “folder of gratitude”

Diversify Your Dreams

So how do you start moving from one dream to many? A practical tip I’ve seen work well is to develop a “folder of gratitude,” a constantly-updated list of all the things in life you’re grateful for. Chances are, many of the things on your list correspond neatly with your underlying passions. Then, take your list and amplify these passions with intelligent experiments. Test and invest in your areas of interest, and cultivate the joy of learning from failure